Monday, June 29, 2015

MISTAKEN IDENTITY

When people start saying that I'm "selling porn" or "back madaming" I know it's not true.  But I have to wonder where it's coming from.  Are people just meaning mean or jumping to conclusions?  So I google myself to see what's going on and I usually always find the problem.  Here are facebook sites that are not mine, even a book that is not mine.  If you see something you're not sure is us - please check with me.  They have apps also that can even send text messages can be made to appear to be coming from me - but are not.  There are ways to check if it's me and I'll go over with you and show you if this comes up.  Just please before flying off the handle thinking you're seeing something with me - please just ask me and let me verify if what you're seeing is me or not.  THIS is not me!



Tuesday, June 23, 2015

Agency for International Development vs. Alliance for Open Society


June 23, 2015



Dear Supreme Court Justices:


My name is Jody Williams. I'm the founder of the 12 step program “Prostitutes Anonymous” which I created in 1987. We later renamed ourselves “Sex Workers Anonymous” in 1995 for two main reasons. The first being the invention of the internet. This created members coming to us for help who were working in the sex industry – while not being prostitutes having intercourse for money. Also, because many of the male and transgender members, as well as our pimps and madams who belonged to our program felt the title “Prostitutes Anonymous” was too restrictive.

The reality of the sex industry is that it has many forms. Many of which do not require physical intercourse for cash in order to be defined as being jobs within the “sex industry”. Take pornography for example. There are performers in the front of the camera – but there's also the camera person, the script writer, the sound person, editor, director, the marketing people who sell the films which are in packages created by graphic designers and then retailed in adult stores or websites online.

Within the strip club industry you have the owners, managers, bartenders, DJ's, waitresses, and then the dancers themselves who are just one part of the whole strip club industry. An industry that is intertwined with the food and beverage industry as clubs serve food and alcohol along with the entertainment, the music the girls dance to and even the lighting systems.


The legal brothel industry has the prostitutes – but they also employ managers or madams, along with security, maids, cooks, even the health care workers who run their health checks are in jobs that are connected directly to the sex industry.

The webcam and phone sex industry also employs many different types of people besides the performers. You have the owners, managers, and the IT people who keep the technology running. The website designers, the traffic generators, even the credit card companies who charge the customers for these types of sessions have to be a specialized type of billing because most customers don't want their wives, or employers, to know what they're spending their money on openly. This is why we now have things like “Bitcoin” for example.


So my position is that the sex industry, of which prostitution is but one component, is just that – an industry. One of the biggest mistakes I see people who focus strictly upon the tiny segment of the sex industry that are females who sell physical intercourse for an hourly rate in regions where it's illegal to do so is to consider that one can do something having only an impact upon the sex industry as a whole while only focusing upon that tiny segment of it. That would be as effective as saying that I'm going to wipe out the whole jewelry industry by only shutting down jewelry stores at malls. We all know that the jewelry industry is connected to the mining field, as well as those who design the jewelry, and even those industries that buy poor quality diamonds to make drills with. In other words, one can not address an whole industry while only focusing on one tiny little segment within it.


I honestly think I'm in a position to call that opinion an “expert” opinion also. For one thing, I worked in every area of the sex industry while I was within it during the years 1979 to 1985. The best count I could give as to the number of actual “tricks” I've turned during those years was over 10,000 – both male and female I'd like to point out. Within this industry I saw both male and females pimps, as well as male and female traffickers, male and female providers, as well as male and female clients.


I opened the first ever hotline for adults in the USA to have anyone, male or female, call for help to leave any part of the sex industry, whether they felt they were “trafficked” or not in 1987. The Polaris National Trafficking Hotline was not launched until the year 2002. The last report I read stated they'd answered 100,000 phone calls whereas my estimates in going over my phone records show I've personally answered over 500,000 phone calls to our hotline since our launch.


I run the oldest and largest program for adults, again male and female, who are leaving the sex industry in any form for any reason. Whether that person feels they're leaving because they were “forced” to be in the industry, or whether they don't – we have been a part in some way of the largest number of people exiting the sex industry within this country.


Larger and older than the groups listed in the brief of “Agency for International Development, Inc. vs. Alliance for Open Society International, et al.” certainly. While groups like “Breaking Free” and “Courtney's House” certainly are fine programs from what I've heard who help female prostitutes to exit a life of street prostitution through a residential system – I would be willing to bet that overall our program has worked with more men and women (as well as transgenders), leaving more areas of the sex industry than they have in these programs, and in more numbers certainly.


Over a broader geographic, cultural, and religious span I'd like to add. I say that because the people we work with come from any, and no, religions. We have worked with Buddhists, Jews, Muslims, Wiccans, Pagans, atheists and even members of the “Church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster” who signify their membership by wearing a coriander on their heads when taking their DMV photos. The members we have worked with have been convicted of felonies – which I understand some of the programs listed in this brief refuse to work with. Some of our members have severe mental illnesses, as well as very serious health issues such as being HIV positive for example.


Again, something I understand some of the programs listed in this brief do not work with – however we do. We currently have chapters, and members, of our program all across this country from coast to coast, border to border, and into Canada, as well as five other countries. Our members are not only employed within the legal and illegal job duties within the sex industry – but we also work with “legal” and “illegal” citizens of the USA, as well as within other countries such as Australia where they also have “illegal aliens” in this country who may be employed within the kega or illegal sex industry in some fashion.

Why do I think this is important? Since I've seen groups arise in this country focusing solely upon the female who sells intercourse for an hourly rate working in illegal regions to do so – I've seen trafficking victims within the legal sex industries grow at an alarming rate. I have literally seen women in shelters that they were put in for “safety” as a “trafficking victim” have the same shelter workers be told they can't stop them from going to work at a strip club as a dancer because “that's not trafficking”. I have seen whole programs at schools directed to getting help to female trafficking victims call for the girls to come up to speak to counselors for help – while leaving the boys sitting there completely ignored.


So not only do I think I'm in the running for being a survivor of the sex industry, and sex trafficking, myself who has been in this field the longest over anyone else who is a part of the writing of this brief, witnessed more kinds of sex work and trafficking, and have talked to more people from a much broader geographical, religious, cultural, and political base than those attached to this brief – but I also think I've heard the stories behind more different types of situations that those in the sex industry have found themselves in when trying to leave than probably if you combined all of these groups together.

I also think I'm probably one person also who actually has more EFFECTIVE experience when it comes to dealing with the sex industry and HIV than the others connected to this brief. I'll explain why by starting with how our society was viewing HIV back in the 1980's as the “gay plague”. In 1986, the year before I started our hotline, and program, there was a proposition being worked on that called to put junkies, gays and prostitutes on an island to “quarantine” them. That was their “solution” to the HIV epidemic that was being viewed back then as an almost entirely gay male problem.


However, I knew from the men that I'd see sleep with these male teen prostitutes during their lunch breaks – only to go home to their wives that it was just a matter of time before this virus jumped over into the heterosexual community. Which is why when I started knocking on the CDC and UCLA doors in 1987 – I was saying we were facing a serious crisis that was only going to get worse if the current HIV system did not change dramatically the way they were treating sex workers, and trafficking victims. They also were only focusing on the concept of a female selling illegal sex in their attempts to try and address an HIV epidemic. This left way too many loopholes. To see if I was right – a test was done showing an almost 80 percent infection rate among the broad range of sex workers I got them to test.

Tom Bradley was the mayor then. Cutting all red tape, and seeing how urgent this situation was – he created a special board for me to be on as well as someone from each department. The health, probation, social services, housing, police, DA's office, etc. all came together with me figuring out how we could work together on a project that would not only help sex workers, but also trafficking victims, and addicts, to not be treated like criminals – but instead to get the services they needed, along with the help to get free to accept these services, by coordinating all of the agencies involved in such a complex issue as this. What he did that was innovative was to treat the sex workers just like any other industry – suspending all efforts to “incriminate” sex workers for prostitution during this crisis. He also allowed us to focus on the sex industry as a whole, including the trafficking issue, which allowed us to design a system that would effectively reach out to all who needed help, whether they were in legal or “illegal” parts of the sex industry. The test was done again after only one year showing our rate of infection had now dropped to 6 percent. A number lower than that of “non” sex workers and that proved our approach had been effective.


Which means I do consider myself quite an opinion to offer on this issue and why I'm writing you. First of all to state the position that the sex industry is like any other industry whether that be farming, mining, manufacturing, food, hospitality, or the service industry. Because any industry has it's “legal” and “illegal” aspects of it. Take the alcohol industry as one example. You have legal breweries, wineries, and distillers – and you have illegal moonshiners up in the hills of Kentucky. You have people selling legal bottles of alcohol in “dry” counties on “dry” days like a Sunday. So the sex industry has it's “legal” and “illegal” aspects of the same act that change from region to region without changing themselves. One can legally shoot a porn in California – but can't in Arizona from what I understand to illustrate my point. While again means if you want to address the industry as a whole – you have to look at it this way.


Does this mean we “approve” of this industry? While abortion is legal – I am willing to venture that there are many who do not “approve” of this industry. In fact, some people find it downright horrific. The same for the executioner who executes the ceasing of life in the inmate who has just received the death sentence. He has to flip that switch, or push that button, in a profession where many people have strong opposition in fact to the death penalty. Some even call it downright murder. But whether we “approve” of this or not – it's still an industry. The fact we don't approve of it doesn't change that it is in fact a job for someone.

Is it dangerous? Of course it is – just as men who do window cleaning on high rises have a dangerous job. Just as New York Police officers have a dangerous job. So dangerous one gets a high rate of PTSD? Look at the rates of our military coming back from the war as to how many of them are coming back missing a body part and also suffering from PTSD. However, we call them “serving our country” when they return back to the states minus some body parts after violent attacks and trying to sleep while having horrible night terrors. We don't consider what they're doing an “abuse”.

Does it have trafficking victims? Of course it does – again just like many other industries. Leona Helmsley was locked up for having maids she was forcing to work within her hotel in the 1990's. We've read stories recently of iPhone's being manufactured by slave labor, and cotton being picked for Target by trafficking victims. While trafficking victims can be found in strip clubs – they can also be found on farms or even restaurant kitchens.


The sex industry is just like any industry. Which means yes trafficking exists within it when the demand exceeds the supply and people looking to make a buck will break the law by forcing someone to perform that job. Is it a dangerous job? Again, just like many dangerous jobs. I understand that we lost many a man who was building Hoover Dam. Stressful? Just like jobs that police officers and our soldiers experience. Short-lived? Just like the careers of child actors, dancers, athletes, or even politicians who are limited to serving only two terms in a lifetime.

What is different about the sex industry than any other industry is this however – it refuses to acknowledge within itself that trafficking exists, that it is often a short-lived career, that it is highly dangerous, workers are just as prone to abuse as any industry that works with children, and that all workers need to have an exit plan made available to them. It further is one that says sex is different when given for free vs. purchased – however it still doesn't address issues within it of just that difference.

What I mean by that is rape and sexual harassment within the industry. For example, within the legal brothels of Nevada I know of no prostitute who has ever sued their employer for sexual harassment, nor of filing a rape case against a client. Now I know it's happened – frequently. But I know that if a legal prostitute in a Nevada brothel had the grounds to file charges against a customer for rape, or against an owner for sexual harassment, or even tried to file sex trafficking charges against their pimp for forcing them to work in that brothel – it's not going to even get filed.

Why? Because it's the only industry I'm aware of that has briefs like this one trying to ask the Supreme Court to call it an “abuse” on it's face. I can point to more NFL football players with severe brain injuries from playing football than I can point to prostitutes with those same severe brain injuries that these football players suffered while “on the job” - yet I don't see anyone filing a brief with the Supreme Court trying to have professional football labeled as an “abuse”. Facts like this are what is unique about the sex industry over others.

This brief is full of assumptions and opinions and beliefs about not only the sex industry, but also the people within that industry that is judgmental, biased, condescending, sexist, anti-LGBT, and downright hateful. If I'm wrong that this brief doesn't reflect the writers' sexism, as well as anti-LGBT views – then please point out to me where it's addressing the male and transgender members of the sex industry? Also, where does it address those working within the sex industry who are not performing intercourse? I worked on a case for over a year where the trafficking victims were locked up in a house with a webcam on them 24/7. They were not having intercourse – yet they were victims. Yet within the scope of what the writers of this brief are asking you to consider as “victims” - no help would have been sent to them.


As for the “judgmentalness” - I'd like to know where the mention is of the madams and pimps who are also trafficking victims. Yes it happens. I've got at least two interviews up on our radio show at www.blogtalkradio.com/stopsextrafficktalk where the victim reports they were forced to go out and recruit, train and “manage” another prostitute or they, and others, would be harmed. This includes the pimping of one's own children. I know of many cases for example where the pimp will then turn around and use the mother to pimp their own child within the trafficking world. So here I'm speaking about a female madam who is also a trafficking victim. A concept that I don't see even addressed within this brief because the writers have their own personal “judgments” that these can't be victims also.

Yet they are real and they need help also in leaving the sex industry – and finding recovery after what they've been through so that they don't return. Providing recovery isn't “optional”. It's important because if the person stays damaged then they are very likely going to wind up returning to the sex industry, in some form, in order to pay their bills. Not just as a victim – but also as someone who is actively harming another. Which means if you want them to be able to leave that world entirely you must provide all those exiting with recovery and rehabilitation.

As for the “hatefulness” - let me point out something in this brief that might not be apparent to the naked eye. I'm the writer of the “Recovery Guide” that is quoted in this brief. It was my story that was quoted in fact where I spoke about “pinching myself” because I didn't feel real. However, that quote was taken out of context. I had started to experience dissociative identity disorder when I was very young. After having been sexually abused by my father, physically abused by my mother, and then raped multiple times – I had already started developing a “disconnect” between my mind and my body before I ever went into the sex industry.


The period of time I was experiencing this very “pinching” incidence was when I was not out turning actual “tricks” but instead isolating in my house. In other words, it was not the sex industry that was responsible for my feeling like I wasn't “real” during that point in my life. It was however caused by surrounding myself with people who weren't listening to me. People who were self-absorbed and self-obsessed with their own addiction – such as sex addicts and drug addicts are. People who tend to populate the world – not just the sex industry.

In my recovery, I identified this fact. That I had those periods of time where I felt “invisible” because I had chosen to fill my life with people who were not looking at me because they were consumed with their own addictions, their own obsessions, and could care less about me in the process. Surrounding oneself with these types of people, and feeling you are “invisible”, will make anyone depressed and also “invisible”. The numbness then creates the need to seek out excitement to “feel” something. All things I had to reverse in order to find “recovery” from the life I'd fallen into.


Which is why I broke off my ties with some of the very people who are involved in the writing of this brief just as I broke off with those people who were making me feel invisible while I was in the sex industry. I found the “abolitionists” were just as likely as the “johns” or other prostitutes to not be truly listening to me, could care less about me, and in fact would lie, cheat, steal, do anything to get their “fix”, and I was an object to them to be used to get what they wanted.


Just as the writers of this brief have taken a quote from my story, from my book, without giving me the respect of asking me first if they could do so, without buying the book from me even that was quoted, without acknowledging the program that this book is connected to (the AA “Big Book” for example is a part of the Alcoholics Anonymous program yet I don't see any mention made here of my book being a part of Sex Workers Anonymous nor is SWA listed in their list of groups that work with domestic sex trafficking victims), taking what I said completely out of the context I meant it in to try and support their agenda without any concern whatsoever for the damaging consequences said quote is going to have upon myself personally nor our program.

I say that because ours is a 12 step program. As such, we are not to have “any opinion on an outside issue” such as what the sex industry is or is not. Yet here these people are using our book to support “their” opinion on this “outside issue” where they are asking you to call prostitution a “system of abuse” without even asking me if it's okay to quote the book I wrote, and my story. If you ask me THAT'S abuse of me.

Well guess what? This is not the first time they have used my name, our programs' name, our literature, etc. in order to express their condemnation and judgment upon the sex industry as a “system of abuse” in and of itself – opinions that have destroyed the once excellent working relationships I had within the sex industry that I depended upon in order to find not only our members being those who were in sex work but now wanted help to exit, but also the very trafficking victims who needed our help also. Because I rely upon the people in the active sex industry to call me when they see trafficking which means when these people who wrote this brief do things to destroy my relationships within the sex industry by doing things like including my book in their efforts - making the sex industry think I'm on board with them on things like this. In other words, THEY are actively working against me from being able to help the very victims they say they're trying to help when talking to people like you.

Because these people within the active sex industry reads these statements and make the assumption that I'm a part of this. They see my book and my name in this brief – and think that I'm in support of the statements within said brief. Guess what that does? It makes them angry and they lash out at me feeling betrayed because when I talk to them directly I tell them I do not have anything against the industry itself. Since day one when I started this program I have not made such judgments about the industry itself as “abuse”. I will however seek to block any abuse from any angle whether that abuse is coming from a pimp, or a client, or even a abolitionist who is trying to act like they know more than we do about our lives.

Let me put it this way – more women are killed by their husbands than by any other type of man. More women are physically assaulted, beaten, and even raped, by their husbands, than by strangers. More women lose their pregnancies behind an assault they will suffer more by their husbands than by men who are not their husbands. Domestic violence occurs more within a marriage than it does outside of a marital situation. Now that said – am I going to say that “marriage is abuse” simply because a high number of women who are married are victims? No I'm not because it's not the marriage that's causing the abuse – it's the abusers. Just the same as the people who are abusing farm workers and sex workers are the ones responsible for the abuse upon these men, women and transgenders who are employed within this field. Abuse is not only inherent in sex work – it's everywhere. It's even in the abolitionist groups. This very brief in my opinion is a form of abuse against us in fact. The groups writing this brief have excluded our groups' members, and they try and speak for us about our lives. They care not about the damage they cause us and like they did with a quote from a book I wrote – they even use our words against us without our consent.


But until we treat the sex industry the same as any other – without all these judgments, biases, sexist views, etc. the abuse is going to continue to be bad and I'll tell you why. Because of the label this brief wants to put on people as “prostitutes”. That's an objectification they want to put on us. An objectification they want to label us with. Just as they want to label people as “pimps” and “madams” and “victims”. I say that because I've seen the way they treat me. Despite the fact that I left the sex industry in 1985, and have been clean since – the people within these groups listed as bringing this brief treat me like I'm “less than” one of them. They do this because bottom line they view me not as a human being who once worked in the industry - but as a “prostitute”, an “addict”, a “pimp”, a “madam”, and as “crazy” are but only some of the words I've heard people within their groups call me online excusing their treatment of me with disrespect, and of excluding me from their activities.


Take the Survivors Connect Network was one example. That group at one time had set up a forum where they were telling members that I was ACTIVELY working as a “pimp” a few years ago. Anyone who defended me was excluded from the group and shunned. When I served them with a “cease and desist” letter threatening them with a defamation case – they tore the whole forum down but never issued an apology.

The Trafficking in America Task Force has excluded me from their groups online, as well as their events they hold. They have excluded me from speaking at their events, our members have been expelled from their groups, and anyone who defends us has also been shunned and blocked from their activities. This brief included as we were not asked to weigh in on this brief despite the fact the issue involves the same community we work with.

Melissa Farley, who runs the Prostitution Research & Education Center also excludes me from any of her activities. Anyone who even speaks to her about me will start hearing a barrage of lies about me which all serve to let the caller know if they are supporters of us in any way they will be shunned also. We can't even get on her mailing list to stay involved in any of her research projects in any way.


The group “Sextrade 101” has a listing up on their website for years now that they are holding “Prostitutes Anonymous” meetings they refuse to remove. When I have contacted them about registering the meeting, using our current name, and obtaining our current literature to use during these meetings, as well as connecting the members to the fellowship at large – I'm lied to and told “we don't hold meetings any longer”. However, they continue to keep this listing up, they use it in their grant applications, and people within their program tell me they attend these meetings. So they lie to me, use my intellectual trademarked property, exploit my work, and then shun the rest of our members.


When I've reached out to try and connect our members up to any of the other groups listed in this brief – I'm just ignored. However, not a month goes by when someone doesn't tell me about some insult, some attack, or some snark made about me personally, as well as our program, and even attacks upon the very name of our program, are issued out of the mouths of the people who run these programs.

That type of viewpoint that they feel they can treat any human being the way they treat me they base upon something to do with my past within the sex industry. In other words, they don't consider me as “one of their victims”. This is how they have justified the harms they've done to me over the years, the harms to our program, the harm to my relationships, and even their outright exploitation of a book that took me years of hard work, and a lot of money and sacrifice to get written. A book they feel they can just go in and take out a line they want to take out, not even show me the courtesy of speaking to me about it, nor even buying the book they quoted from me, without giving me any respect whatsoever, not even respecting our group by even listing our name – and just use my writing however they feel to support their agenda simply because they think my feelings, my work, my views, don't matter.


If I'm wrong about this – then please explain to me why at the bottom of this very brief all these other groups are listed yet I fail to see our group, Sex Workers Anonymous, that wrote that book, listed. Do you know why I believe they didn't list our program? Because the day Melissa Farley came to me in 2007 and asked me if I would state that “all prostitution was abuse” as a public statement right as we were getting ready to do a press conference together that she had lied to me about why I was even there in the first place in order to get me in front of that camera – and I said “no”. That is the day the campaign has started from her that has spread into the very movement I CREATED where now groups like hers, Prostitution Research Project, and others connected to hers such as the others listed in this brief, all act like I, and our 1,000's of members, just don't exist anymore in their world.


They are the ones disrespecting us, abusing us, exploiting us, no different than a trafficker in my opinion. This brief is evidence of that accusation. They have taken again a piece of literature I spent years of my life writing, $1,000's of my own dollars putting together the research to create a “Recovery Guide” for our 12 step program, and then took a quote out of context out of it they felt suited their purpose, and they presented it to you as something “we” agree with acting like they're speaking for “us” while in reality they're denying “us” and our views. They're doing this to get money, to advance their own personal careers, their own political agendas – and they show absolutely no concern for any damages they're causing me, or our program, in the process as long as they get what they want.


They are doing this because in their mind I'm just a “prostitute” and a “pimp” as they have called me online to slander and degrade me. While quoting our book when it suits them – they have never invited me to one of their events to speak or educate despite the fact I do represent the largest and oldest group of survivors, and the fact I started the domestic trafficking movement. When I said an opinion they disagreed with – they set about a campaign to try and run me right out of this field. It's a long story – but they have told people their careers would be “over” if they even so much as speak to me or acknowledge we exist since I told them I do not agree that “prostitution” is a system of abuse.

Sex work, even prostitution, is a job title. It is not the title of a person. My name is Jody Williams. While I have worked as a graphic designer, paralegal, writer, and even as a prostitute – that has been my career and not my identity. The people who have abused me have been pimps, madams, prostitutes, and even professors who are a part of the writing of this brief. Therefore, I am writing you to let you know that I strongly object to the fact they used my writing to support their brief and why.


I also do not agree that HIV will be “easier” to treat if prostitution is recognized as a “system of abuse”. That is absolutely not true. Again, they are making a separate class of person than a person. Even the very term they're proposing here suggests that of a female engaging in direct intercourse for money is the only one who can be a “victim of abuse”. However, those who are risk for HIV may also be male, transgender, lesbian, or bisexual. They might be a street walker, or a porn performer, a stripper, a madam, a pimp, or even a webcam cam performer who might be pulling gang bangs without condoms. To limit the risk the way they are is what is going to cause the virus to spread even further in my opinion through their ignorance of how this industry works. An ignorance of how it works because they shun anyone who disagrees with them, who has the broad range of knowledge and experience of this industry that I can provide to those trying to do something about this HIV epidemic I'm seeing spread across this country as we speak, and can offer those who want to do something to truly address this crisis.

The people associated with this brief ran people like myself, and others like Dr. Sharon Mitchell, another ex-porn performer who became a doctor and opened the AIM Clinic that used to test sex workers exclusively, right out of this field when we wouldn't agree with their views. They have acted like we don't exist, not invited us to speak at their events, and threatened anyone who even wanted to speak to us with tanking their careers, let alone wanting to involve us in the HIV issue, as it connects to the sex industry and sex trafficking. As a result of this – I've personally witnessed it leading to another HIV outreach in this country unparalleled since the original 1980's epidemic when we were last not a part of this field either.

So I'm writing to all of you on the Supreme Court who heard this brief I found out about accidentally online while trying to find out why so many within the sex industry are convinced that I'm speaking out against them suddenly. Let me say this – if the writers of this brief knew anything about how this industry truly operates, let alone cared about us, then I wouldn't have had to find out about this brief quoting my own book on an accidental google search. The fact this was how I found out is a sign of the type of disrespect they show all of us, and the presumption they can ignore out voices and speak for us the very way they're doing in this same brief.

 
If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me anytime at the above information. Thank you for listening to my feelings and opinions on this matter.

Sincerely,

Jody Williams

(for more on my background go to www.hightechmadam.com)

Wednesday, June 17, 2015

WHY WE DO WHAT WE DO

Since day one, we have argued that prostitution needs to be decriminalized.  Not "legalized" which is another word for "brothel" - but "decriminalized" which means it is no longer a crime.  Rapists, kidnappers, and murderers target prostitutes, or make their victims appear to be prostitutes, so that they can continue what they do without fear of being arrested.  To my knowledge, to date, one rape case has not been won in the USA by a prostitute.  I have also yet to see search teams with volunteers, and blood hounds, go all out looking for a known prostitute - the way they do for a non-prostitute.  Also, how does one properly prosecute their trafficker, or pimp (yes there is a difference - a pimp is a relationship whereas a trafficker sells someone outright like a car or a piece of property) when anyone witnessing what's going on is incriminating themselves by coming forward?  What Fortune 500 CEO is going to step up to witness on behalf of a prostitute? 

Which is also why we don't believe that all cases of trafficking, or even rape, a prostitute can call 911, the National Trafficking Hotline, or at trafficking task force connected to law enforcement.   There is a NEED for a hotline and program such as ours for adults where one knows their call is not going to be processed through law enforcement without their prior consent.  Our hotline is answered only by another member, and no files or information is processed to law enforcement (unless one is threatening to harm themselves, or others, or there's a child in danger - then yes we are obligated by law to do so).  Below is a list of cases where the victim CAN NOT call law enforcement, the National Trafficking Hotline, or a local trafficking task force for assistance - but NEEDS to know about our program to get assistance. 

http://www.mediafire.com/view/pw3zto4hhy4j8p5/2013newsarticle.pdf   This is a case of a San Bernardino, California vice officer who for years raped prostitutes while in uniform.   Now how could they call to report being raped for one?  Also, how can they call the trafficking hotline knowing they will just be referred to the local police - which is him.  If they say they need a different number - they would be given the task force number which I'm willing to bet if he wasn't on it then he has a buddy who is on it. 

Part of the beauty about prostitutes knowing about our hotline is not only can they safely call so we can refer them to rape treatment that's "safe" and won't report them to the police, that has experience with treating prostitutes who have been raped, maybe even a counselor who used to be a sex worker - but WE can then file a complaint with the authorities on her behalf, as well as Internal Affairs without involving her while she's going through early treatment.  We can also work on getting her off the streets so she won't see him again, and out of the area so she doesn't worry about bumping into him while shopping.  We can also refer her to a police officer we know is "cool" and won't harm her in order to file charges against a man like this.

If an officer in uniform isn't bad enough - http://www.cbsnews.com/news/report-fbi-investigating-sen-menendez-over-prostitution-claims/  how about a senator?  Please tell me how one would access help when the system is scared to death the victim is going to file a report against a senator?  Tell me if in the pursuit of protecting his own career, would he not possibly tell shelters, or programs, or his cop friends, NOT to take these prostitute accusations seriously?

From a vice cop, to a senator, now we're at the Diplomatic Security Service http://www.nydailynews.com/news/politics/state-department-officials-covered-accusations-assault-prostitution-report-article-1.1368191 who did NOT "follow up on the claims" .  These people were providing security for Hillary - meaning they were alone and with prostitutes "off the record".  Who knows what kind of blackmail they could have been subjected to, or even a gps device of some kind attached to their clothing?  This may not have harmed the prostitute - or would it?  What if a pimp knew their prostitute was going to see someone like this?  Might he not possibly force her to do something under duress like plant something on them, take photos, who knows maybe even plant a bomb of some kind.  These people have not been "cleared" security wise. 

It's not limited to their agencies either.  Here the DEA owned a strip club, and using illegal aliens as dancers so they were doubly afraid to seek help through law enforcement - http://www.breitbart.com/texas/2015/03/27/dea-agents-admit-to-sex-parties-and-prostitutes-hired-by-drug-cartels/


Sunday, June 14, 2015

The Forgotten “Bottom Bitch”

This is a harsh term but one has to realize how the world of the street pimp operates. I should know as I was trained by a family of generational pimps when I was indoctrinated into the sex industry. It was a time when racism was extremely dominant within Los Angeles county. These men were African American and they wanted to elevate their operation to a whole new “level” they explained to me. To do so would require things like leasing homes in the valley, Beverly Hills, Venice, etc. To open merchant accounts to take credit cards which took practically an act of congress to get approved to do back in the late 1970's unlike today. Renting an office on Wilshire Boulevard was also something that would not have happened if an African American male showed up to meet with the agent. Not back then anyway. Remember this was long before hip-hop or rap or men like Russell Simmons were considered men of Fortune 500 companies. .

 
They needed a Caucasian with an “honest face” who knew who to talk. Knew the game. Knew the con and how to “think on their feet” when answering questions. Something that a girl who had been lured into prostitution, and was taking drugs daily, just wasn't able to pull off for men like this with big plans. However, my father had trained me in how to be a con artist starting clear back to when I was eight years old. That's when he started teaching me how to play pool so he could hustle the guys at work out of their money. By 12 years old he had me dressing up as my own mother and pulling off full blown cons.


When my father left – I thought I'd be able to just “move on” to a “normal life”. I enrolled in college and went out to get myself a waitress job. That's when I walked into the nightclub these men had set up in Tarzana, California which they were using to launder their money. But it was becoming harder and harder to explain why so many drinks were being served in such a tiny club to explain the high numbers. As it was they were ordering booze by the truckload they'd just give away to try and make the inventory they purchased match the number of drinks they were supposedly selling at the club each night. Something else had to be done as the business grew – and the government started demanding more “proof” about where cash was coming from.


They told me they needed someone to help with the “management” level of their operation. I'd grown up watching Mae West movies. It was a time when madams were viewed very differently than they are today. Dolly Parton even played one in the “Best Little Whorehouse in Texas" film which was even a Broadway musical at one pint in time. So culturely it was a different time entirely than today. These men were offering to put me into a whole other world full of celebrities, fancy cars, big houses, and a life they wrote movies about.

 
In my training, they explained to me that their job was about making money understanding the human mind rather than of through hard labor. That I had to understand that if all they did was go around terrorizing women that wouldn't last. The women would just get up and leave. That pimping was an art form almost of knowing not just how to manipulate people but also in understanding group dynamics.


Because most pimps don't have just one woman. That's not a pimp. That's an abusive relationship. To be a pimp required at least four to five women at any time in order for the dynamic to work. Of which the very foundation of the pimp rested on what they called the “bottom bitch”.


Most pimps start out at about 12-13 years of age. That's when most of them start feeling interested in “the game”. Whether they're brought up and trained to be a pimp by their own fathers, or uncles, or whether they go out into the streets seeking out an older pimp to mentor them – almost all that I've evern know tell me they've become interested at about that age. I think that's when most of them also start experiencing an attraction to women. For these men it's not just about sorting out their own sexuality but also about figuring out what type of relationship they want with women in general.

 
This is when they start looking for their “bottom bitch”. What this means is usually she's the first one they start out with. This woman is usually an older woman who actually is looking for a younger man she can train up in his future career. Other times she's just about the same age as him and they start out like any young couple starting out together. I've seen a variety of circumstances about this first woman they get – but it's always someone who decides to make a “team” effort to build their family empire. She is with him for the “long haul”. In her mind anyway.

 
Because of his youth, she feels protective of him. This is why she's the one who goes out recruiting for him. Usually because she can get into places he can't. Once around all these women - she then starts out talking constantly about how “great her man is” while out at the clubs, parties, gyms, shopping with the girls, even in jail. Wherever she can put herself around women who are also in a crisis, or a vulnerable situation where they are looking for a man to take care of them that they can “respect”. Because there's two types of men who spend money on a woman in this culture – there's the “john” who is viewed as a weak man. Then there's the pimp who is viewed as a “real man”. While a “john” is someone who can be ordered around and controlled – the pimp is viewed as someone who does the string pulling in this world. While by default is going to attract women looking to be dominated.

 
She goes out to find the other women for them as a team so that they can start generating more money and to build their future “empire” together. Her story she tells herself is that if she helps him get enough of these women out making money “for them” then one day they'll be able to retire together off in the islands somewhere (or whatever their fantasy story is for their end goal). She doesn't view these women as competition to her because after all she's the “bottom bitch”. She's the one he really loves and these women are just means to an end for them she tells herself.

 
The “bottom bitch” therefore feels that their relationship is like a marriage. The women she goes out to recruit are like children – with them as the symbolic “parents”. What she's looking for is either a very young woman who has never lived on her own, another prostitute looking for a replacement “family”, or someone who she considers her mental inferior that will just go out working as a prostitute, do what she's told, and bring back the money to “daddy” like a “good girl”. Therefore, she's also looking for someone that she can control.


This is why she tries to recruit women who want to be like her, be treated like the pimp treats her, live like she does. By talking about how well her “daddy” treats her – she does this to inspire envy, even jealously. Jealously is an important component in the 2nd woman in this power structure. So a great deal of effort is put into showing how “nice” her man treats her. She brags about him. Shows off jewelry and clothing he's bought her, places he's taken her to, things he's done for her. In other words, she talks him up in a way he never could if he did it himself.

 
But most important she does it to also lure the woman in close to the pimp. To indoctrinate her into the relationship she's usually invited “up to the house for a party”. A party where she's given drugs, alcohol, and of course indoctrinated into the whole “culture”. Music is playing about the “game”, posters are around, and most important are people who act like this life is something completely “normal” for them to be living. They expose her to their life to see if they can inspire this 2nd woman to want to be a part of “their” life. It's important to find someone who feels competitive because the whole point is to get a woman who will be striving always to try and replace the “bottom bitch” as far as the pimp's true affections. So he will always admit that he “loves” his “bottom bitch” because he wants the 2nd woman to be thinking of how she can make him love her more than the “bottom bitch”.

 
Because of her maternal role within this dynamic – she does maternal things. She does the cooking, cleaning, laundry, paying the bills, etc. She'll take care of the pimp also like a mother – setting his hair in curlers for him, trimming his nails, making sure his suits are clean when coming back from the dry cleaners, and so on. Anything to show that he loves “being taken care of”. It's also to inspire the 2nd woman to try to outdo her on these things.

 
All while the pimp plays an artful mental game. He'll be sexually inspired by the 2nd woman generally. However, it's his “bottom bitch” who he truly loves because he can “depend” upon her. He talks about how he'd be lost without her help – the way she makes sure the bills are paid and the house is run. All again to inspire the 2nd woman into thinking if she can take better care of him than the 1st woman – then she can then have him all to herself.

 
But in this dynamic it will reach a point where the 2nd woman will tell the pimp to “make a choice”. This woman will make more money than the “bottom bitch” and she'll cook more and clean more and do everything she can to prove she's better. Just when she's reached that point where she feels she can issue him an ultamatim that it's “choose one of us or I'm walking” - that's when a 3rd woman has to come onto the scene to now inspire a competition among both of these women with the 3rd player in this game. It doesn't work otherwise with just two because it will then come down to a point where they'll insist he choose over or the other will walk.


The whole point is the competition. It doesn't work with just two because that's just a war where eventually one will either win or lose. So to keep it a competition a 3rd or even 4th woman has to enter into the group dynamic. However, over five does becomes a problem. Why? Because you can't really have more women than there are nights in the week. A man has to spend a resident night with each woman as part of this relationship. Then the one who makes the most money that week gets the 6th evening as a reward. He then has to have a free evening to himself where the women then all compete to see who talks him out of being out alone on the 7th evening. So more than 5 women can become too much to handle properly. More than 5 and someone winds up not in rotation and then eventually that will just cause the whole operation to fold. The “game” only works if there's constantly vying for position going on between the women. Which is the whole point of this – to get the women competing with each other.


In order to do this however he has to be seen as the “prize”. He can't be the disaplinarian or the punisher to be avoided. That's why the “bottom bitch” is the one who issues any punishments and also maintains the control over the whole group. If a woman starts acting up – she's told what's what by the “bottom bitch”. She is mentor, mother, manager, and also disaplinarian. If any physical violence is called for – it's usually the “bottom bitch” that does it. Why? So she's the one who goes to jail – not the pimp. She's the one who collects the money also so he's not ever charged with pimping. That's why she's the one in this role – she's the one who buys the drugs, signs things that need to be signed, and does any of the illegal activities for which he'd go to jail for if anyone got caught.


Which is honestly one of the reasons why it's so hard to put a pimp behind bars. Most of the time it's their “bottom bitch” who is collecting the money, beating the women when they're out of line, purchasing the drugs, transporting the drugs in the car, and doing any of the risky or illegal behavior. This way even if someone does “snitch” on him – it's really all on her shoulders not his.

 
Which is also why the other women hold her blameless for her actions. They know it's not really her that wants to hurt them – she's only doing it to protect “daddy”. Any lessons taught are taught by her to protect him, or because they know she's being told to do so by him. This allows them not to hold any grudges against her either which would destroy any other relationship otherwise.


Dynamics like this are routinely used within the military. They create a bond among the men in the barracks to then unite against their common enemy – the drill sergent. The “bottom bitch” is much like the drill sargeant is in the military. It creates a “common enemy” that deflects away from the pimp any of what is really his responsibility. He's not the one beating them or threatening them – it's the “bottom bitch” that's doing it. They fail to see that he's the one behind her pulling the strings.

 
When looking at this group from the outside, such as if you're law enforcement, or a social worker – you can clearly see that the pimp is the one truly responsible for what's going on and that all of these women are victims in one way or another.

 
However, the woman who has taken on the role of the “bottom bitch” knows she was not just some passive mindless robot. In her mind, she knew what she was doing and she was an active predator and abuser on a scale maybe even worse than the pimp. Many of these women have participated in the rape that is very common with the “breaking in” of new victims to the family because sometimes these other women aren't lured in by the promise of a good life. Sometimes the next women in this dynamic are tricked into coming back to the house where they are drugged raped, and then brainwashed into the “family dynamic”.


After the rape, the new recruit is then turned over to the “bottom bitch” to be mentored into what it is she's supposed to doing. She's then taught how to dress as a prostitute, how to find the tricks, things to say so she won't be arrested, as well as what her new world view is. This is where she's explained the “tricks of the trade” as well as what's expected of her now. Again, a conversation that the pimp doesn't have with her so that he's not the one carted off to prison.

 
This is one of the reasons why many a pimp doesn't get arrested. What is the victim going to say? He's not the one who brought her up to the house. He's not the one who drugged her. He's not the one taking her money. He's not even the one threatening her or her family if she doesn't cooperate. It's the “bottom bitch” who is doing everything to the victims.

 
Now to the outside world the “bottom bitch” appears to be a prostitute just like the other women. She's not even viewed as a “madam” because the money isn't going to her pocket but his ultimately. If she's arrested she's not viewed as a pimp or madam – but someone who was only carrying out the pimp's wishes in the eyes of the law anyway.

 
I'm bringing this story up now because I feel this woman is being very overlooked and misunderstood in the modern trafficking movement where many people in it don't really understand the “inner” workings if you will of this world. A lot of emphasis is put into cautionary tales about the pimp – without any warnings being issued of how the women operate on his behalf. Again, this is also so if caught he can claim he has absolutely “no idea” what's going on.  Even this clip on youtube from the film "Street Smart" cuts away before the movie shows the "bottom bitch" is the one who sets the other female in her place.    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rDOdNSiFvDw  This film by the way is just about the most realistic one I've seen on this type of dynamic.  I can see why he was nominated for an Academy Award and do believe it was racism as to why he didn't win. 

 
This means that that young 12, 13, or 14 year old girl can be in just as much danger being invited out to a party with the “girls” as she may be if the pimp showed up directly on the doorstep by the way. All the more reason actually why with a young victim it's not the man who approaches them initially, but the woman. A woman who may be their own age even. For that matter, it might even be a young man her age that the parents are viewing as just “puppy love” with no idea how harmful this relationship really is.

 
I think of stories like I saw with Aubrey for example. Her interview is http://www.blogtalkradio.com/stopsextrafficktalk/2013/07/08/hear-from-a-nevada-brothel-prostitute This was a young girl who got a boyfriend her own age when she was about 12-13 years old and so was he. They went to the same high school together. Any “normal” parent would not think the 13 year old boy showing up at the door was in reality a pimp who was being mentored by his ather, an older pimp. Nor that she was being groomed to be his “bottom bitch”.

 
But look at it from the older father pimp's point of view. How is he going to get close enough to a 12 year old girl to “turn her out” himself? He has three choices – he can attempt it himself which is very difficult and if discovered he's going to go to prison for a long long time. He can also try to send in another young girl her age which he might not have one under his control at that time. The third option is to use the boy to connect to her on a romantic level who is not viewed by adults as a threat because of his young age. This is how the older pimp then got Aubrey under his roof the night that he not only “turned out” Aubrey, but also showed the younger pimp how “the game is played”.

 
Now a “bottom bitch” when taken into the outside world is viewed really as “just another prostitute”.But when you talk to her about what the pimp did to her – it's not going to register. In her mind she did everything she did of her own free will. The same issue is going to arise with the women under her as it was the “bottom bitch” who issued any threats or did any harm to them. They are going to defend their pimp as “never lifting a finger to harm them”. When in reality he was carefully orchestrating the whole thing amonst them.


In Alcoholics Anonymous one of the purposes of their program isn't to stop the alcoholic from drinking. Anyone can stop drinking. However, for the alcoholic, there is the issue of the “dry drunk”. This is a type of thinking and behavior that alcoholics have that can be present even if alcohol isn't. Within Sex Workers Anonymous, we see the same thing only we call it “post-prostitution syndrome”. This may appear as a type of thinking and behavior common to prostitutes. However, it can also exhibit as the relationship they may have had with their pimp.


This is why as I talked about one of the first groups I worked with were women who were in the religious group “Family of God”. In this cult, the pastor taught the members “flirty fishing” where they used their sexuality to get money and new recruits for the cult. The pastor was simply a replacement for the pimp. Instead of a fedora he wore a collar. When I spoke to the women about this – the lightbulb went on and they realized while out of prostitution, they were still in the same exact dynamic. This is when they said not only did they want to leave the cult – but also realized why “working the steps” was so important of a process for them to work through. Otherwise, they'd just keep finding other relationships to be in where they were being dominated, exploited, and abused to their own detriment.

 
Something also to keep in mind when working with this community. Everyone is different. While there are patterns – there are still “different” patterns. Not everyone fits into the stereotypical idea of some mindless helpless robotic victim who went out on the stroll at night only to come home and turn her money back over to her pimp. But in order to find out what one needs as a solution – one also needs to understand what the past patterns are. This is accomplished through the 12 step process.

Saturday, June 13, 2015

WHO DO I TURN TO OR BELIEVE FOR HELP?


Let me explain why things are not so "simple" in our world. Remember, when we started our hotline, and program, there was NOTHING for adults. Children of the Night existed for teens and children. They had the only hotline and house for “prostitutes” simply. The word “trafficking” was not even coined until the “Trafficking Act” of 2000. The Mary Magdalene Project was a house that accepted 6 female adult prostitutes with no criminal record, no drug problems, no children, and no history of mental illness into a one year long program based in Reseda, California. That was it – period. Yes there was programs like “Covenant House” but they were directed towards “runaways”.



What this meant is that anyone, male, female, or transgender, from any part of the sex industry, whether it be from the porn industry, to the strip clubs, to prostitution (webcams weren't invented yet), and whether this person had a pimp, was not forced, was trafficked, had a drug problem, had a history of mental illness, had a felony record – that whatever the situation was anywhere in the USA, Canada, or even other countries we'd get calls from people seeking help in some kind – we had to not only be able to respond – but also be able to “deliver”. We also had to do this in a world that viewed us ENTIRELY as nothing but “criminals” or sexual “degenerates”. Some psychology books called prostitution a form of mental illness back in 1987.



I didn't open our hotline and program because I found something else out there that “worked” to get me out of, and function well and recover from, the sex industry, as well as the trafficking I'd endured. In fact, I spent five straight YEARS looking for something to help me achieve this to no avail. I'd tried religion, therapy, meditation, EST, medication, and even hypnosis – all to no avail. I scoured library directories looking for an answer – to find nothing. I looked everywhere to find a “retired” person like myself – only it was like finding a “white elephant”.



Hearing there was the “Church of God” that was supposedly churning them out from prostitution into “decent” people I went to check them out. Only to find that instead of a pimp – they now had a pastor they were raising money for using sex. Same game – different clothing. When I pointed this out to these women – they wanted to leave. Not having enough resources to take 10 women with children out of the cult at the same time – I decided to form our 12 step program, and hotline, and go onto national TV to announce it. I figured if I talked about what these women needed – help would appear.



Which it did. An apartment building owner came forward with housing. A temp service came forward with jobs that didn't care about their work history. The pastor got so upset because of the press that he changed the name to “The Family” and left the country that year – 1987.



Only these women now looked to me for help with “recovery”. No one had health insurance to afford private therapy. I certainly didn't have much more than my AA degree in psychology. They didn't have a drug or alcohol program to go to AA or NA. So what to do? I had gotten a lot of my help through the Vietnam Veterans who helped me with my PTSD that agreed to show me how to work with PTSD. The Holocaust Survivors agreed to work with me to teach me how to treat “sole survivor” complex and of course “depression” without medications. There was NA of course. The cult “deprogrammer” we met showed me what brainwashing was, how it operated, and how to “deprogram”.



But I had no idea how to run a 12 step group. I formed a “mentor board” from founders of OA, GA, ACA, SA, and EA. I also had the Executive Director of NA, and people who worked at the General Office of AA, as well as the regional office agree to teach me what they knew about running a 12 step program from the bottom up.



I took trainings available at the domestic violence center in how to run their hotline, and groups. I did the same with the suicide hotline, and rape hotline, and the child abuse hotline. Church of the Way gave me free “pastoral counseling” classes – plus I'd already put in two years of training through a ministry school my mother ran back then.



I even attended weekly support meetings through a program that existed back then called “Catharsis”, as well as COYOTE. Catharis was a support group for those leaving the sex industry, and COYOTE was a sex workers' rights group. I also did “studies” - like the one where I interviewed 2,000 men and women within the Los Angeles jails and drug treatment programs about what it was “they needed”. I also continued to look for the “mythical retired sex worker”. I found a few within Pacific Group – a group in AA run by Clancy in connection with the homeless shelter. Clancy agreed to take me on as a mentor also to show me how he had built the women up from the “floor up” to where one had become literally a NASA physicist. Another was an attorney. I watched how Clancy not only set up Pacific Group – but how he set up a system of recovery where a once homeless crack head prostitute could then become a NASA physicist, own her own home, and be a functional part of society as well as staying clean. Then set about applying what we learned to our program.



Once we had a program that we were confident “worked” - then we had to put together a “Recovery Guide” and a “training manual” as well as a “step working guide”. Something that took NA 20 years to achieve. Gathering together members from all over the country – we then worked with another 2,000 of our members across this country to write our books. UCLA stepped in to do some research because of us doing the first HIV outreach campaign into the sex industry as well as the California Governor's office. Our effective rates they said were “astounding”.Why did it matter?



Because for the first time in history we were standing up with prostitutes in the courtroom asking the judge to consider allowing this person to be a part of our program instead of being carted off to jail. People have asked me a lot lately “why are you a 12 step program if you don't believe sex work is a disease like alcoholism?” The answer is simple – there are existing laws on the books right now, and back in 1987, that allow us to go in and ask the court to consider sending one arrested for prostitution to our program as an :”alternative” to jail. One doesn't need to set up a “special” program, or courtroom, or open up a residential house. All one needs to do is for the prostitute to ask the court to consider our program as an “alternative” to jail, even in situations where jail time is a mandatory part of the sentence.



Now the judge won't send someone to a group where people sit around with active sex workers and talks about their feelings instead of jail. He's going to ask “is sending you there going to be a better option than jail?” Meaning, he's going to ask if there is an actual “program” they're going through. Which there is. One comes into the program and goes through “working the steps” and “traditions”. Part of the 12 step program is the 7th tradition – meaning you have to become “fully self-supporting”. One has to “make amends” for past wrongs. We examine who we are and what we believe in the 4th step inventory. So yes there is an actual “program” the judge then considers and if he feels it's better for them to come to us instead of jail – he'll issue a court order to that effect.



Unlike many of the current “faith based” programs – we are not a “Christian” group although we do have Christian members. We also have Jewish members, Buddhists, Wiccans, Baptists and even Church of the Spaghetti Monster who you can tell are members because they wear colanders on their heads in their DMV photos. There's even atheists in the group and those who say that their “GOD” is actually “good orderly direction”. Meaning we don't use our program as a tool to evangelise people into our religion. Members of our program have a right to any “higher power” of their own choice. In other words, we don't tell people what or who to believe in.



Nor do we attack the industry which is why many “faith based” programs don't embrace us either. Our 1st step for example is NOT “we admitted we were powerless over the sex industry” like it's our problem. Our members know that our problems started before we entered into the sex industry, and continued after we left the industry. A drug addict, alcoholic, compulsive gambler would love to be able to blame other people, places, and things for the decisions they made – but recovery is about learning to take responsibility for one's life, one's decisions, and one's actions. While an addict might be “powerless” over the fact they have a disease over which they have no control, and while some of us may have also been “forced” to be in the sex industry – all of this is in the past.



What we have to be responsible for is not our past – but today. I mean go back to the original situation that prompted me to found the program. Everyone knows that for an alcoholic – just stopping drinking isn't the solution. They don't come to AA to stop drinking. They come to AA to not go into a “dry drunk”. In that cult – I found women who were re-enacting everything about their past life and relationship with their pimp in their current life with that pastor. Here they were with another man in control of their lives who was exploiting them for money who was using and abusing them. They were still using their sexuality to obtain money from men that they just turned over to another man who cared nothing for their health and welfare in reality and called that “love”. No – the sex industry had nothing to do with what was wrong with those women nor did leaving the industry solve it either. Like getting clean, it's a start. But it's not the whole program.



After we started achieving some “success stories” - then we had people who would help write our “Recovery Guide”. So by 1992, we published the “Recovery Guide”and incorporated our program for the first time . We've already run two “alternative to sentencing” outreaches and programs that were shown to be highly effective, more effective than anything else that had come before us. Even Catharsis had disbanded. Not every sex worker drank or used to be able to enter groups like Pacific Group either – and we were finding about 2/3 of our program were men and women who were not addicts or alcoholics. Therefore, without our program they'd have nothing.



Before NA started – they used to say “once an addict always an addict”. NA changed that. In 1987 people used to say “once a whore always a whore”. There was even the saying “you can't make a whore into a housewife”. Only we were seeing our members get out, and stay out, and moving on to build new lives. Look at Kathleen Mitchell for example who came out of jail to found Dignity which is still running over 20 years later. She credited us for her recovery and ran weekly meetings of our program in hers. Brenda Myers-Powell who founded Dreamcatchers has credited us many times for her recovery in interviews.



We were making history by our members getting out, and STAYING out, as well as them building wonderful new lives where they contributed to society like these two heroes. Which made people curious about us. This led to more than one reputable independent reporter coming out to see how we operate, and meet with our members, with their own two eyes. John Quinones of ABC even published a whole chapter in his book “Heroes Among Us” in 2009 he thought so highly of us. Bob Herbert validated our statements in the NY Times – saying he'd verified everything we'd said to him. We've had researchers like professor Sharon Oselin, publish interviews with members crediting our program for their life changing around in her book “Leaving the Sex Industry”.



We've had two documentaries that have been filmed about our work, and three “made for TV” films based on us. I have many testimonials from members up at www.blogtalkradio.com/stopsextrafficktalk Our Recovery Guide has more stories of members' who have turned their lives around. By the year 2000 – we had chapters of our program in every major city in this country, as well as Canada, and now five countries. We have years of news clippings that also have testimonials from our members up at www.hightechmadam.com



This led some courts to even expand upon our being able to offer our program as an “alternative” to sentencing. Some courts started offering to shorten one's probation if they attended our meetings. When our members started having problems finding work because of their criminal records – we started appealing to the judges for record expungment. We didn't have to pass any laws to get this done – all we had to do was prepare a motion for the court to show how this person had changed. So without having to hire an expensive lawyer, without having to lobby the state to make a law – our members right now, today, can go into the court and motion to have their records sealed.



So all together – I think we've established a viable, working, effective, program that is still growing every day in size as well as evolving with how the sex industry, and the world, is evolving. Not to say we didn't make a lot of mistakes when we first started this work - mistakes we'd hope to pass onto you, the readers, without anyone having to be harmed in order for you learn. But considering we had no role model to follow in their steps, and had to create our own path entirely – we've done well. We have literally 1,000's of members now across the country who have written, or called, us with thanks for what the program has done for their lives.



One of those early mistakes was by just thinking a "friendly" and "nice" person was all one had to think about when looking into making connections to other people and what other groups were doing. We would all be "friends" and I wasn't thinking things though. Because I had “friends” in the sex industry, and using drugs, and it didn't help me change my life or heal from the trauma. I've also seen a lot of “friend” based groups come and go over the years – while our program is still here, and still growing, because we focus more on “effective”.



Which means that things like "friendship" and how much I may "like" or "not like” isn't the point when I'm researching into other programs to see what they offer before I refer people to them on our hotline. What I'm looking for is how well thought out, and “effective” a program is. I admit I have a reputation of being a bit of an “unlikeable” person. But if you're a parent, or a boss, or a landlord then you know that sometimes doing the “responsible” or the “right” thing is not always going to be popular thing. Which is probably why I've seen a lot of programs started by very “well loved” women – go by the wayside over the years because they're not willing to make “unpopular”, but needed, decisions.



Let me walk you through what I mean for the point of explaining "what's love got to do with it?" Which also means whether our members "like" me or not - what matters is they are "safe" with us when they come to us for help. This is why when I first got a call from a man who said he was “Kevin Brown's assistant” last year – I was listening intently as he told me that Kevin had “found God” and upon doing so had decided to now go out and “help trafficking victims” escape the streets.



When I asked how he was doing this – he said that he was renting a motel room, then calling up the ads on sites like Backpage, ordering them like pizza, and then offering them a “way out” once they arrived. From there, if they wanted to get out – he was taking them to a “ranch” he'd bought where they would stay and work on their recovery until well enough to live on their own.



Frankly I found the whole story suspect. For one thing, for our whole first year – it was a revolving door. Women would come in and swear they were “quitting” and mark off a day on the calendar. Then a few days would be go by and they'd relapse . When I'd ask “why?” it was usually another person in the group who had convinced them to go back “out”. I didn't just open up a door to the meeting hall and suddenly everyone was “recovering”.



As I outlined above – I went to a lot of meetings, spent a lot of time “experimenting” and learning. It took me almost a year to find a meeting format that worked. It took me at least a year to be able to start seeing some numbers in our group actually starting to get months to a year. Now we still have members who have been with us since 1989 continuously who are still in recovery such as myself. I've been out of the industry since 1985.



But when I asked where he'd received his training in how to help these women “achieve” their recovery – I started hearing stutters. Clearly someone was blowing smoke up my backside – and he bailed. It also didn't make sense why he'd start his own program from scratch – when our program, and programs like Children of the Night, were operational, and right next door, as well as a phone call a way. If he'd even obtained a training from us – then I'd understand..



I say that because I was asked to put together the very first training for counselors in how to work with prostitutes at Mission College in 1990. So I've been training counselors, and outreach workers for some time now. But this guy just “retires” from the force and suddenly he's churning out “success stories” without taking one class, cracking one book, and not doing five minutes of research online to see how other groups like ours are doing what we do? It's just not that easy. So either he was full of hot air, yanking my chain, or he didn't care about how “effective” his program was.



But think about this for a moment – when his “assistant” was trying to clearly hand me a line because we know now in reality there was no program, there was no house, and that he was putting together a TV show and not really out there trying to “rescue” anyone, but instead trying to create a bunch of PR so he could keep applying for grant money, and getting people to write out donation checks – do you think that man walked away when I handed him his hat talking about what a “nice lady” I was to people he reported back to?



Consider this – we've been around 30 years now. So when people would ask him I'm sure an obvious question like “why are you doing this Kevin instead of just referring people to Sex Workers Anonymous” is he going to sing our praises? Of course he's not. Which is why the most common answer that's being spread around thick in this movement now is people trying to justify their shenanigans with statements like “oh Jody is crazy” or “that Jody is a b**tch” like that has ANYTHING to do with the effectiveness of our program. Bill Wilson is dead – and AA lives on and continues to help people achieve sobriety. Jimmy Kinnon is dead and NA continues to save addicts lives. So anyone who wants to say they aren't going to refer a person trying to get out of sex work, or recover from trafficking to our program because I'm “crazy” - is showing you who they are. I'm not the person who opens up the meeting hall in Chicago. Nor am I the person who is sponsoring the new members in Houston. I frankly have nothing to do with it. Our program works itself.



Which means I didn't think much more about him until the show “8 Minutes” came out. Then I realized why he really wanted to have me send prostitutes up to the motel room with him. I could see the deception in his nature ran deeper than just in telling me he was doing “outreach” and having “success”. I say that because I sometimes also use deception to help victims. My intent however is to help them. Take the case where I pretended to be a cleaning lady once in a massage parlor. I did that to get the keys to the back doors so I could let the women out. Yes I lied and put on a costume and pretended to be a cleaning lady to get at those keys and left alone long enough to get that back door open and those women out to a car that was waiting in the back parking lot to take them to safety. But Kevin Brown was staging this show for an entirely different reason and saving women from trafficking wasn't the end goal clearly.



His deception is connected partly to money. There's grant money that's been going to Orange County because the grant judges look at the TV and think that he's for real. When the show was airing – I saw a whole string of churches holding “fund raisers” to “get more beds” for the “victims” that he was supposedly getting to agree to him saving.



Because we have to ask a deeper question here – why fake this show? Why not go out and film some “real” rescues? Well for one thing – this would mean he couldn't be pretending to call up ads on Backpage. I knew it was staged because it didn't show any “screening” when he was ordering this woman to the hotel. No agency today is going to send a woman out to a strange man in a hotel from unless he's been “screened”. That's for her safety – and also to make sure he doesn't run off with the woman. I also knew that Backpage is NOT where the trafficking rings operate out of.



Now when the show first aired and I was telling people it was staged – people accused me of being “crazy” (ah the battle cry of the ones trying to cover up their misdeeds). But the proof it was in fact “staged” came in on 4/20/15. That's when I got a phone call from the woman calling herself “Kamylla” confirming it had all been “faked”. She also gave me consent to replay this recording as I saw fit – so now I had “proof” it was staged. Then she told me she “didn't need our help” and since she was not going to be a member of SWA – I saw no reason to hold back on going after the show myself. I then slapped the show's webpage with a “notice of filing an injunction and a defamation lawsuit” at 4:00 a.m. By 8:00 a.m. - the show's page was down. Now shows get cancelled all the time – they don't take down the page and the video. Only in this case – they did. Someone clearly didn't want anyone to see that notice.



When I posted the notice on this A&E page – there was no sign of Maxine Doogan anywhere. She was all over Twitter – but not on this page. A page where the only way to remove my notice was to take down the entire page. Which is what they did. Took it down and didn't put it back up until my notice was removed.



I then read Buzzfeed say “the page is down”. I went to them and gave them a copy of the notice and explained why. Only right in front of my very eyes – the article morphed into being about how Maxine was the reason why the show was canceled – and how it's about “Kamylla” not receiving services – with not one word about our injunction, notice, or defamation lawsuit. Not just left out – but like we didn't even exist nor had even spoken to the reporters. Now that was strange.



Up until this point – I'd had no beef with Maxine. I've never even talked to her – let alone had her attack us. I read some time ago that Maxine Doogan has been working towards decriminalization of prostitution – so on principle I'm supportive. Even though we both want the same thing, at first glance, I haven't reached out offering to help her group before until I could do more homework. But I certainly was no enemy of hers at this point in my mind.



My belief has been we're not going to be able to prosecute traffickers as long as sex work is illegal so yes I believe we need to "decriminalize" prostitution. Think of it this way - how would you prosecute a trafficked bootlegger? I mean think about it - how would you be able to get other bootleggers to prosecute another bootlegger who was using "forced" labor in their bootlegging operation? It would be virtually impossible.



Again, you would have trouble getting a witness because then the witness would have to explain how they got that close to a bootlegging operation to have witnessed someone being forced to make illegal "bathtub gin".



Then what about physical evidence? Who wants to admit they were inside of bootlegging operation where they would get said physical evidence.



Yet that's what we're up against when we try and get a trafficking prosecution. Both the customer and the provider side of sex work is illegal. Then because it's illegal - we don't pay FICO - we are not building our social security for that golden retirement day. We aren't getting a paycheck (usually) meaning we can't build credit easy. To buy a house - we'd have to do a "stated" income loan which requires a huge down payment to get financed. We can't get unemployment, workers compensation - all things we could get if it were not "illegal". I mean one wakes up one day at 60 years old - and then what?



Until they fix the "legal" system - I'm not happy about the legalization either. The way it is now - the owners have a lobbyist but the women don't. They're not getting health insurance - and if they get HIV on the job, or pregnant even, one can't get workers compensation, disability, or even unemployment. I haven't heard of one brothel prostitute being able to sue the owner for sexual harassment (even though it happens) nor rape when one of the customers' gets out of hand. The owners wouldn't allow it because it would be bad "press" for the brothel.



But one would think that "decriminalization" is the same across the board right? Not so fast. Those of you who know me know we've been trying to help men, and women, escape a trafficking ring where they've been imported from China and forced to work in the Asian massage parlors across the USA. http://cjonline.com/news/business/2014-04-07/woman-involved-sex-trafficking-wichita-massage-parlor-gets-probation There have been some arrests, and some victims freed - however, the "head" of this operation resides in California.



That's who we are trying to get shut down – the head of the ring. Because in this ring - it's not just them forcing these women to work as prostitutes they're up to. They're also pumping the customers for information as to their jobs, and family life. The customers are then having their bank accounts hacked and robbed. One man told us he'd been hacked for $60,000. When they come back against the ring - they have their jobs and/or marriages threatened (blackmail). If they own certain types of companies - trade secrets are being stolen. http://www.justice.gov/opa/pr/chinese-professors-among-six-defendants-charged-economic-espionage-and-theft-trade-secrets They've also been targeting the kids of these women at USC. Especially the men.



Why? While all the church groups are running around looking for women - this ring has shifted to turning out men. Why blackmail instead of prostitution? What does one get for a really high-priced escort these days? $5,000 a night maybe? Catch what one sting can yield - http://www.thesmokinggun.com/documents/crime/gay-porn-star-extortion-case-897653 Now if this ring had just posted photos and Donald's name - he would have gotten it pulled down over his "right to privacy". So simple blackmail doesn't work.



No - one has to file charges. Convince the mark that their name will be kept out of the court records and to "trust the nice officer". Only the judge then required Donald to publish his whole name saying the defendant "had the right to face his accuser". Next thing Donald knows - his name and face as well as Teofil's are all over the internet. Since it's "public record" then Donald can do nothing to block it.



But to pull off such a sting require both the police, the judges, and even the DA's possibly right? Is such a thing possible? It's not only possible - it's happening right now. Look at this with respect to DA's in Orange County for example (not far from Pasadena). http://www.dailykos.com/story/2015/05/29/1388819/-Judge-disqualifies-all-250-prosecutors-in-Orange-County-CA-because-of-widespread-corruption Over 250 DA's?



So this ring is employing cops, DA's, judges, and even the press to help them do their crimes against men like Donald Burns. Even Teofil has said that he was connected to a group who also was “trafficking underage boys”. I'm seeing the press against Donald – but I'm not reading about where these boys are and someone getting out to rescue them. Trust me – right now these blackmailers are holding up Donald Burns to other victims and saying “see what happens when you go to the cops?”



How are some police involved? Meet Chris Butler. http://patch.com/california/sanramon/private-investigator-christopher-butler-pleads-guilty0df4c86437 He retired after 20 years, and then using other active duty police - he then became a trafficker. So well respected Chris was on the Dr. Phil show!



Surely a victim could run right? With Chris being a private investigator - yep. But they won't get far with a PI on them these days. What if one of the traffickers is also an IRS agent? Even harder to hide. http://aacriminallaw.com/irs-agent-badge-recruit-prostitutes/



Kemp's been arrested though right? Well for one thing the news said he operated out there for over 12 YEARS. But after he got arrested – how would a trafficker get information from the IRS? Go right to the source- http://townhall.com/tipsheet/katiepavlich/2015/06/03/surprise-irs-was-warned-about-potentially-hacking-of-sensitive-information-did-nothing-n2007472



But how do you get all the rest of the police, judges, DA's - all on the same page where you can now threaten anyone else who isn't part off the ring to stay silent about what they're witnessing? http://www.theguardian.com/technology/2015/jun/04/us-government-massive-data-breach-employee-records-security-clearances How about all of the federal employee's? Sometimes it's not just to do a crime – sometimes it's just to have someone be silent.



Maybe it's one or two “bad applies” right? How about 18 deputies on corruption charges? http://www.nbclosangeles.com/news/local/Federal-Authorities-Announce-Criminal-Charges-Against-Members-Local-Law-Enforcement-Agency-235097281.html Think about this – this is only the ones they had enough evidence against to arrest. What about the others they didn't? Plus this is nothing new – look at the movie “Departed” where Jack Nickelson played Whitey Bulger. They showed how hard it was to get even one “good” agent into the system there.



But why did the corruption reach into the jails? Informants are often put in jail for "protective custody" for one reason. But nothing would happen to an informant in protective custody right? http://www.latimes.com/local/la-me-0520-deputy-trial-20140520-story.html How about the system "loses" them for 3 days?



Certainly you'd demand the witness be "returned" right? How about if you are FBI and you do and then you get threatened by two men in your home when you do? http://abc7.com/news/lasds-paul-tanaka-tom-carey-indicted-for-obstructing-fbi-investigation/721297/



Now - let me ask you something . . . am I telling you this to just bash people in the criminal justice system? No – I'm trying to explain to you what a victim of domestic sex trafficking faces when she's trying to figure out how to break free. I mean look at the money this type of crime is bringing to the ring – because it goes beyond just prostitution money. Think about what they can get from your customers' after they hack into their banks, blackmail them, get them to manipulate the company, etc. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2673963/How-secret-sex-tape-plunged-British-drugs-giant-Glaxo-90million-bribery-probe.html



Now looking at all of this - would you feel "safe" trying to run away from people with such power in such high places, to the cops? Where men like Paul Tanaka, and four other motorists are able to shoot unarmed men dead and then he's put in charge of his own probe? http://www.latimes.com/local/la-me-tanaka-20140602-story.html#page=1 Would you feel “safe” around such corrupt law enforcement if you are trying to escape such a trafficking ring as these poor Chinese women?



Go ahead - put yourself now in the shoes of a 50 or so years of age Chinese woman who has been forced to work in an Asian massage parlor as a prostitute since you were eight years old. You weigh maybe 90 pounds soaking wet. This is what these women look like in reality – not some TV show - http://losangeles.cbslocal.com/2014/09/04/woman-45-to-be-arraigned-for-operating-2-oc-brothels/



You're not from here even - you're in the USA on a work visa. Now I want you to think about what's going to come to mind when a man like Kevin Brown http://www.ocregister.com/articles/reese-373758-brown-sweets.html shows up and says he can "help you" leave this situation and he gives you the card to the National Trafficking Hotline.



The hotline will refer you in Orange County (where Kevin was based out of originally) to the OC Task Force - http://www.egovlink.com/ochumantrafficking/staff_directory.asp Okay let's look over this list now - first off I don't see our program, Sex Workers Anonymous. I also don't see Children of the Night either. That's especially interesting since I'm the founder of the movement domestically! Again, like opening an alcohol treatment center with no AA – crazy.



I do however see the police dept., the district attorney's office, FBI, Highway Patrol, Probation & the Salvation Army shelter. The news said everyone took in about $1,200,000 – so it's interesting to see who is listed on a “trafficking task force”. http://www.ocregister.com/articles/human-235586-task-trafficking.html that was created from this money.



I also see a listing for a group called Abeni. http://titsandsass.com/activist-spotlight-meg-valee-munoz-on-compassion-coercion-and-complexity/ Their program if you read the article there has BOTH active sex workers in this program as well as trafficking survivors



Now I've said since day one I believe there's a difference between someone who has a "pimp" vs someone who is "trafficked". First of all - there is a "range" of pimps. When my mother was arrested because an undercover cop took a picture of me handing her a $20 bill for a bucket of chicken then legally that was "pimping" as she did "receive money from the earnings of a prostitute" . I wouldn't call that "trafficking” however.



It appears Maxine Doogan also ran a service out of Seattle, and is in fact a "convicted pimp". http://www.sfexaminer.com/sanfrancisco/keep-trafficking-out-of-city/Content?oid=2143391 But does make her a “trafficker”? I don't know the specifics to comment here. I have no idea if anyone was forced to work with her, if anyone was “sold” outright, or even how much money was taken. I'm just going on a news clipping here.



As for myself? I was dubbed the “high tech madam” by the media during my arrest because I had a computer and surveillance equipment in my place. (clippings about it at www.hightechmadam.com) However, that was for security purposes since we couldn't count on the police to help us. Remember, I was witnessing women being sold outright like cattle, loaded onto diplomat planes, and then never heard from again. The police wouldn't protect us – so I sometimes would have to protect us from outright attack. Women like us were kidnapped all the time, never heard from again, and no one would even look. So I have a camera over our doors and windows, and it linked back to a video recorder. I had dead bolts on everything, a shotgun, a pitbull where the money would be stashed in the dog's collar! But I was never arrested for, nor convicted of pimping.



No one was forced to work with me. In fact, I used to get a call from other madams who would tell me about a woman showing up with a broken arm, two black eyes, and her teeth knocked out because the pimp had just beaten her up. When I'd get a call like that – I would go and pick them up and take them to our “safe house” that was an apartment no one knew where it was. They'd go heal for a few weeks – and then I'd put them on answering the phones for a while. Then I'd let them tell me what they wanted to do. Did they want to keep doing sex work – or maybe go home to their folks? Some wanted to go home. Others wanted to go to school. Still others wanted to go back to sex work. To me – if that was their choice that was at least their choice at that point.



A “trafficker” doesn't allow their victims to make a “choice”. You work for them “or else”. Now that threat could be a gun. It could be a threat. It could even be the threat of taking the “love” away. I've got two interviews up for example at www.blogtalkradio.com/stopsextrafficktalk where the women say the men they loved threatened to leave them if they didn't prostitute for them, and then give them the money. So threats and force are not always violent, nor using weapons – but they're still force.



Force also means you can't safely leave. Telling me “sure you can leave” knowing I'll be shot the minute I open the door out – that's not “free will”. Now I've said before the women in this Asian trafficking ring that came to me about two years for help – don't have a gun held to them. They are however told that family back home will be murdered if they don't comply. They've also been told if they don't comply – they'll be deported back to China where the government will be sent photos of them in positions that have the death penalty attached. Meaning if they go home – they will be legally executed.



This woman who spoke to me personally told me of “fake” police charges being put on her criminal record. When we had an attorney try and get her booking videos – we got threatened. So I believe her. For almost 15 years now, I've been dealing with traffickers who are not like Bishop Don Juan – but are like Chris Butler, Kemp Schiffer, and Lance Gilman (owner of the Mustang Ranch legal brothel – who is also a county councilman and on the Nevada Board of Economic Development).



We know from the recent news that even the DEA might be involved as traffickers - http://nypost.com/2015/05/20/dea-agents-secretly-owned-strip-club-with-illegal-immigrant-dancers-feds/ They had illegal aliens as dancers when I'm sure American women were around. The reason is simple – an illegal can't run as far or as fast – especially without ID. Therefore, they're much more likely to keep secrets about who is in the club, and what they see happen in the club. So men who want an extra layer of “discretion” are liable to attend this club. Now were these women forced? I have no idea. Again, one has to speak to them to find out what the situation is.



But let me get back to the woman who are in this Asian trafficking ring that I'm working on helping right now. I want you to see what she's seeing. The men in connection with this ring have the best hackers at the world at their fingertips. We've just seen how the Chinese have been able to hack into our IRS, and our Federal Employee Personnel records. So for her to leave this ring – means they're going to come looking for her. Because of the hacking – it means we can't leave any trace of where they're going on the phone or computer. It also means she can't take a phone or computer with her as the gps can be turned on to locate her if she leaves the battery in the phone.



This woman has a Realtor' license, she's got a teenage son, and she has an elderly mother she cares for along with a mortgage and a car payment. She's not going to check into the Salvation Army shelter – nor would it be safe. One only has to look at that list on the task force directory – and you know immediately nothing on there is safe for her there.



What about Abeni? If both “current” and “ex” sex workers are there – then no it's not safe for either those who have left the industry NOR those who haven't. Do you know why? Meg that I'm aware of – is not a doctor, lawyer, nor minister. Which means that any “rules of confidentiality” don't apply to her. She can repeat anything she hears in other words in a court of law if she's given a subpoena or a warrant. This means she can't “guarantee” confidentiality for those people talking to her, or coming to her meetings. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK64435/ I'd like you to note that this law here – DOES NOT specify “trafficking” but speaks about drug treatment.



So let's say an “active” sex worker comes to an Abeni meeting, group, coffee, or whatever. She then tells Meg that she's actively engaging in crime, i.e., prostitution. She says she's doing drugs, maybe she's got a pimp in the house, etc. This woman might even talk about how she's “laundering” her money or doing other types of illegal behavior. She doesn't just say this to Meg, but she says it to other women in the group.



Now – let's say that a criminal case comes up and the cop, or DA, or other attorney, in this case decides she wants to use her as a “witness” in this case. All it takes is a warrant or subpoena given to Meg, or another woman in the group – and all of a sudden her dirty laundry is now in a court room.



To me – telling an active sex worker that she can come a meeting of a program I've set up, and then tell her she can “open up” and “speak freely” without benefit of the Miranda law, or benefit of an attorney advising her what she can say to incriminate herself vs. not – then she's exposing herself legally by coming to these meetings and openly up to Meg



.All she has to do would be to show up at this group, one “active” sex worker seeing her there and everything she says at this meeting will be reported back to her pimp. Maybe it won'.t. Maybe confidentiality is so good there that everyone would honor her privacy which if broken could literally mean her death. Which means she won't trust it. Knowing that active sex workers are going to be there – that fear alone would prevent her from coming.



Another issue is donations. It's a felony to “receive earnings from a prostitute”. So if there are “active” prostitutes there who are putting money into a donation basket – then Meg is now guilty of a felony. She could be arrested at any time for this in fact if she's taken even $1.00 from a currently active prostitute. Does that sound silly? It's the law. I respect the law today.



That's why I don't accept money from active prostitution within our program. I have a free pdf form of our book that I give them free when they first came in also so I'm not taking illegal prostitution money.



There are issues with the “ex” prostitutes. A thing called “statutes”. If they're running and someone opens their mouth in the group, and again the “confidentiality” issues aren't clarified – then a woman could be out of sex work for a year, two years, three years, and suddenly find herself being slapped with a subpoena to testify in court as to something she'd forgotten all about.



Which is why to protect our members from this – I became an ordained minister. This way anything that is said to me – is truly “confidential”. Again, it's why I don't take any donations or even sell our literature to anyone that I haven't clarified is out of the biz first.



Another issue is that if women have left the industry, but there are still “active” workers in the rooms – how are steps being taken to ensure that old pimps don't hear about where “so and so” is going to be once a week for their physical protection?



What about the records with their contact information? What steps is Meg taking to ensure that her contact information files for “active” members isn't turned over to law enforcement – which is a form of entrapment in my opinion. Also, for those “out” of the business what steps are being taken to ensure that an old pimp isn't going to come looking for them and hack into the computer, or bribe someone into giving them the information.



If you look up on the IRS computer for “tax exempt” for Abeni – you'll find them. http://apps.irs.gov/app/eos/pub78Search.do?ein1=&names=Abeni&city=&state=CA&country=US&deductibility=all&dispatchMethod=searchCharities&submitName=Search They are a registered nonprofit in California, and they also have a 501c3 tax exempt status.



Make's them “legit” right? Only you won't find an AA or NA program with this type of legal status. Nor will you find our program either. We are “not organized” as one of our traditions for one thing. Know why? By being a nonprofit, and by taking money of any kind from the government, the IRS can then swoop in and audit your records. You don't have a choice – the records have to be handed over to them. Records like membership information, information on who donated money, their bank information, where you send the newsletter, etc.



Now we're an “anonymous” program just like AA, NA, GA, etc. We are based upon “confidentiality”. That's why our traditions state we are “not organized” for one thing although we “may create special boards or committees”. As for us - I tell new members not to tell me their names, where they live, and I don't keep files. I also have systems in place for those who might have pimps looking for them to make sure they don't send in a woman as a “spy” to find out where she's run off to so he can find her, threaten her, and drag her back. This is why in 30 years we've never had one single victim we've helped to escape trafficking has been found again.



But with this corruption in the system so prevalent – this is why I've had pimps try and use the system, or men like Kemp Schiffer has tried to use their IRS connections, all to try to get access to our records so they can get information on our members, etc. Now has this prevented me from being able to apply for a grant or hold a fund raiser? Sure it has. But if money was all I was after I'd just go back to sex work right? But mind you I'm not just a program to help people get out of sex work – I've also got TRAFFICKING victims as members. Meaning women who are running from men who have corrupt connections and would love to find out where they are to either drag them back, or silence them, once they've left just as men tried to do that to me when I left the industry.



This is why we don't even sell our book on Amazon – but only through special order through us directly. Why is that? Because for all my hard work – if people were to buy our Recovery Guide through Amazon – then someone could go down to Amazon with a subpena or warrant and get a list of the buyers from them along with their contact information, and banking information. So also to protect our members – we do not sell our book on Amazon. We could make a lot more money if we did – but again money isn't our goal. Protecting our members' safety and confidentiality IS our goal.



I also just see a whole tangle of legal and ethic issues that are being compromised for the members when Meg mixes “active” with “inactive” sex workers within the rooms of her program, especially without her being a counselor or minister. This is why to come to one of our meetings – one has to first be “screened”. Those that are currently involved in the sex industry, and therefore liable to spread information on our recovering members back “to the streets” are kept insulated from the recovering members. We don't want current active sex workers going back to who knows where saying “oh yeah I saw Sally today she's working here and living there”.



I'm also not understanding how “Abeni” is a an actual “program”. I read that the Orange County Task Force has received at least $375,000 that I can see published in the paper. Now Abeni is a nonprofit, and it's part of the OC Task Force – so I'm going to have to assume it's received some of that grant money for operating expenses.



Yet in going over the task force directory – I don't see anything, not even Abeni, that meetings the requirement of being an “alternative” to sentencing program, or trying to shorten probation, or expunge records – all things I think are important services for a trafficking victim to be able to access I would imagine. I see one their site they help with an “exit plan” but again with the mixing between active and inactive sex workers – I frankly wouldn't want any information about where I'm going to be going back into the active industry. I don't want anyone connected with anyone I used to know knowing where I'm going to school, where I'm going to be working, or even where I'm living.



But how do they actually get a new member from point a to point b? With the highest relapse rates – how do they get their members “out” of sex work? An “exit plan?” I had an “exit plan” for five years when I was in sex work – that didn't get me out. To help a member get “alternative” sentencing – we show the judge “step by step” how we get a new member “out”. In a group like Sex Workers Anonymous – our program is the 12 steps and the 12 traditions. Which in cases where security has to be very high as it has to be with some – we can “work” the steps them through the mail, or by skype, or even done while in a drug program or mental hospital if they require treatment. So I can show a judge how we take them through the exit, and recovery, process using the steps. I don't see any of this type of structure in Abeni.



But Meg and Maxine are friends. Without knowing either of them prior to this whole “8 Minutes” thing – suddenly I have these women attacking me. I'm trying to figure out why because I've always been a friend and asset to the sex worker community. I am remember an ex-sex worker myself. Before this show – I never even knew or spoke to Meg or Maxine Doogan. I've never spoken to them. Never had a bad word. So why suddenly out of left field are they attacking us, lying about us, and smearing us online during the time period where we were also attacking the series “8 Minutes”? Remember, we've been working on trying to get this whole Asian trafficking ring shut down at the head for about two years now.



I have this in the back of my mind as I'm going after the show. The series “8 Minutes” is produced by Relativity Media. A company that's partnered with a Chinese government owned film company. Not a film company in China – but a government owned film company. http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/news/relativity-media-launches-strategic-partnership-222940 I bring this up because this gives me an idea why they would be going to all the trouble to film a show about the sex industry, but not wanting to show the “truth” behind it. Maybe, must maybe there was not one Asian woman in that filming, nor were they going into Asian massage parlors, and instead focusing on Backpage – because maybe they were also trying to keep the focus away from the Asian parlors. I'm sure this is not an image that the Chinese government wants floating around in the minds of Americans right now.



But curious why after all these years of Maxine and I both being around – why has she never attacked me before this show but they both are now I'm curious – so I go digging. I'm wondering if Maxine might have any connection to this Asian mob that's been trying to get me off their backs. I find this. http://www.sfexaminer.com/sanfrancisco/keep-trafficking-out-of-city/Content?oid=2143391 If you read this carefully – it states that when she tried to have sex work decriminalized before in 2008 – that she also tried to get wording removed from Prop. K that would have allowed San Francisco to obtain state and federal funding to help trafficking victims of an “minority”. '



In other words, this could mean Hispanic, Russian, or even Chinese. Now why would Maxine want to exclude funding to help minority trafficking victims? It's not like she objected to it – she tried to “exclude the wording” for some reason according to the article. I'm not talking just “x'ing” it out either – but she went into court with her attorney and asked to have the language “stricken” from the wording on the ballot. Which means she didn't want the voters to know what they were voting for. Interesting.



Sounds to me like she didn't want minority victims of trafficking to be able to access services because if there's no funding – there's no services. No services – no where for them to escape. So I'm looking at this and thinking maybe Maxine doesn't want sex work decriminalized for the same reasons I do. I want to see it decriminalized so that victims can have an easier time prosecuting their traffickers. I'm wanting to see this so we're not branded “criminals”. However, what I'm seeing is she wants to see women not get arrested for prostitution – all at the same time she wants to see that “minority” women can't find access to services to escape and recover if they're trafficking victims? Enough so that she'd spent the time and money to drag a lawyer down to the Superior Court to ask them to “lie by omission” to the voters to get what she wants clearly.



Now this is beginning to make more sense why she'd be attacking someone like me who also helps anyone, including “minority women” to leave the industry, and escape trafficking. Dennis Hof doesn't want the women at his brothel to have an easy time leaving the business either. That's why he won't put up our flyers in the brothel for the women to know about us when they want to quit – and why he fought the sign law when Polaris tried to get the same law as California now has passed in Nevada. He doesn't want any sign of any program that can help the women leave inside of his brothel. But Dennis Hof is a pimp. Maxine is a convicted pimp also. More is becoming clear as we dig.



But I'm still failing to see how the Abeni program offers help for trafficking victims. Especially since most trafficking victims in Orange County are going to have issues with people within law enforcement, the DA's office, DEA agents, FBI, attorney's, etc. who are part of the trafficking operation they're going to have to be able to “run” from if, and when, they leave the trafficking operation. Yet it's connected right up to these same offices. There's also no “confidentiality” in place to protect the members – nor is there protection because of mixing active, and recovering, together in one program.



Is it an issue even? I think so. I've had law enforcement threaten me with warrants and subpenas to get at our hotline information before. I've had “researchers” offer me money to find out about our callers and members. I've had media offer me as much as $50,000 to come film a “real” meeting to find out more about our members. I've even had an offer to become a “paid informant” to give the law information on our callers to them freely. So when our hotline is getting calls from the Orange County area telling me they don't feel safe going into rooms of meetings like the Abeni program for fear of their information leaking back to either law enforcement, or the pimps – I can understand their concerns.



You're not going to help someone who won't come to you for help because they don't feel “safe”. New members look to your security measures taken to see if they're safe with you. What I see is Meg is way too lax with all security issues. If she's helping trafficking victims to escape, and recover – then there's going to be an angry pimp or trafficker somewhere. Yet she's got her facebook page clearly easy to find with her name on it and photos of her children also posted. With children being the most highly targeted victims – I'm just not understanding why she'd get herself this close to trafficking – and then parade her kids around on social media with no attempt to disguise them even with sunglasses, a hat, blurring their faces, etc.



Again, especially if she's interacting with “active” sex workers around her children. If she has photos of her kids, and she lives in the same town as the meeting – she could be going to the grocery store when another active sex worker could see her, bump into her, and then introduce themselves to her children.



Are these “wild and crazy” concerns? The very very first woman I rescued from a pimp, I remember her name even, Denise. Denise was being beaten by her pimp at least three times a week. I was still working in the sex industry and to try and help her get away from this guy I offered to let her have a vacant apartment I had downtown that I'd use when I needed to meet clients there. One night she showed up with a broken nose and two black eyes. That was it – I offered her the apartment and told her she didn't have to go back to that.



The pimp of course knew she didn't come home that night – so he came knocking. I had the dog and the gun so he left. Then he tried following me when I'd leave to go shopping. I'd ditch him. Then he found a “john” who remembered I had that apartment downtown. I came to bring Denise food and he was waiting for me in the bushes. He put a gun into my side and told me to let him in. It was a security building and he couldn't get in without my help. What he didn't know was I used to carry a small gun in my jacket pocket. So I pulled it and we had a little “stand off”. He left.



Now if this was today and I had pictures of my kids online – how hard would it be for this guy to threaten my kids so I'd tell him where Denise was hiding? Which is why anyone who does actually work with helping trafficking victims ought to know not to post photos of her kids online. If they're not in danger – then she's not helping anyone get out. Because pimps will do this. Routinely.



Which is why I also learned that you have to relocate victims away from their pimps entirely. The hard way. Because a year later Denise was walking down the street to go into a movie and this pimp saw her. To get his “street respect” back – he then ran her over with his car and killed her. He was bragging when they carted him off to jail about how “no bitch leaves me and lives”. Because of Denise – we now take great pains to ensure that victims are relocated to new towns where this is very unlikely to happen again. If one has car insurance on the off change one might have a car accident – then to take precautions when dealing with sex trafficking and one's children makes more sense than not.



Especially when I can name case after case after case where someone working in the trafficking arena had their children targeted. Anyone who works in this field should be well aware not a good idea to put photos of your kids online. Especially since Abeni is, by it's own admission, still working with active sex workers. Who might have pimps. Who might see those kids. But because the photos are there – anyone who is thinking about leaving their pimp is going to see that and know that she's not set up to help them really leave.



Funny how everyone taking federal grant money and out fund raising is saying that “no services exist”. So when I hear people say “no services exist” for trafficking victims, or for those who simply want to exit the industry – I say maybe that's what someone is saying as part of their fund raising – but that's not the truth. There are services. There are beds. There are companies who will hire you with a criminal background. There are attorney's who donate free services. There are counselors who donate free counseling. I have a list of companies that hire ex-sex workers – even with a criminal record. I have a list of companies who hire ex-felons even. I have a list of companies who will even invest money to help an ex-sex worker, even if they have a felony record, to set up their own companies. I have a list of companies owned by ex-sex workers who will hire other ex-sex workers.



Which is why when I hear things like Kamylla is still looking for work months after doing the show, and two months after meeting Meg, and Maxine, and Tara – well maybe it's because they're not set up to help women LEAVE like I am. Kamylla is in Houston and right now I know of one company right off the top of my head owned by a man who has been out of the industry for over 20 years. He runs a call center and has plenty of jobs and could care less about someone's record or immigration status. Which means he'd probably be able to hire Kamylla's husband also. For that matter, in Houston – I know of a few programs that will even pay her back rent, put her in school, and pay her bills for the first year she's going through the transition.



But Meg, Maxine and Tara are all convincing Kamylla not to avail herself of any of this help by saying things to her like “Jody is crazy”. But in reality does this have anything to do with me? How would I possibly be able to provide all of these services and jobs across the country? Because it's not limited to me personally – that's how. SWA has 1,000's of members all over the USA, Canada, and into other countries. Through them we have a huge network of services available. We've built up relationships with people over 30 years. We've worked with many judges over the years. I mean what does my “mental status” have to do with her being able to get a job in Houston because we have SWA members who have companies back there who would hire her?



Now that's assuming she wants to quit and is really looking for a job. I mean no -we don't help active sex workers pay their rent by giving them money. That would be stupid. But if you're trying to exit the industry – then I know of many resources that can help.



But remember this – if Kamylla would take money to act for Tom Forman – then who knows what else is being staged here. Maybe I'm full of hot air. Because all is not as it appears online. Remember Relativity Media produces “Catfish” also – so even people might not be who they say they are either. In reality I might be a fake person also. Remember Philip Morris used to pay for research that said their products were “safe” and “not addictive” and the truth was hard to get out there for a while. So do your homework. Ask questions. Think. This is your life here you're talking about. If a pimp would like to us to make money off us – then yeah there are people on the “outside” who will do it too.



Use common sense when wondering who or what to believe. I mean if you're hearing people saying things to you like they're “scared” I'm going to “come after them” - ask yourself this – who was trying to figure out where who lived online, asking around for that information, all while joking about “shot guns” and how they “wished they could do “more than nothing”, and talking about having who “locked up” and “carted off”, etc. I mean who is coming after who here?



Who is the one “seeking fame and money” when I'm not holding a fund raiser. Nor am I trying to win a lawsuit right now that I'm also raising money for. I'm not the one putting my face out there online to talk people into donating to my fund raiser – now am I? Neither am I the one who is a convicted pimp either? As for my charge in 1984? I was convicted of “misrepresentations for purposes of prostitution”. Meaning I had a theater license where I charged $250 to watch an adult film with a nude hostess and the sex was free. The law said that I was “misrepresenting” the free sex and it was actually prostitution. THAT'S what I'm convinced of – in 1984. Nor was I arrested for prostitution recently. You're smart people – you'll know who to believe.



So yes before looking into reaching out to someone for help – ask yourself some smart questions. I mean look at sites like this one saying it's also there to “help” you. Don't listen to some news article – we all know they lie today also. So just “think” - like this site http://families4fast.org/about/ Do you see a hotline where someone can call 24/7 for help? Do you even see an email? How do you reach this group? What do they do? They have a picture and a bio. However, the blog has her talking about “bread sticks” and “straw hats” - not about things like one would need to recover from the sex industry. Which means I don't care if the lady has a “nice smile” and if 10 reporters say this an an awesome program – I'm not seeing a program here that's going to save my life.



Ask questions. Research. It's your life, and your families if you have kids. Think.